We have all heard the news….. it’s not just a niche concept anymore! The news can be heard from the airwaves of television talk shows, late night radio, news and magazines, and the latest and hottest self-help books. The news has gone mainstream and is becoming widely accepted to be a new way of relating to the world around us. What is this “News”?
Our thoughts create based upon our belief system. We are constantly creating and magnetically attracting experiences, opportunities and people who mirror our inner beliefs. Yikes, some might say! And there is a genuine reason why many may want to dismiss this news altogether…… it’s not good news to know that we have SO much responsibility over a reality that we aren’t satisfied with.
First,…. get in touch with what beliefs are surfacing and running much of your life. Are they even your beliefs, values and thoughts? Are they your mothers, or dominant great aunts? Are they outdated versions of yourself? Are you still reflecting on your post college ideals of your potential success 15 years into your career? Check these out! Question them and put them to the test to determine if they are even a part of your ever-developing sense of self. If not, let them go and let them go BIGTIME!
Second,…. take a moment to do some real inventory of what latent fears lurk deep within you. What concerns are lying just under the surface? Are you secretly running a program in the backroom of your mind that your partner is too good to be true and just waiting patiently for a sign of betrayal or rejection? Perhaps you carry concern that the next promotion shouldnt really be yours regardless of your seniority and effort because it would rock the boat with your friendliest of colleagues… let someone else shine and remain peacefully well-liked?
Fears are often revitalizing and provoking those outdated and foreign beliefs that don’t serve you. They are the beliefs that may never have been truly yours, simply adopted from an influential family member or respected mentor that is now keeping your growth on many levels at bay. As a matter of fact, regardless of the work that you pursue to make conscious change these are the very thoughts that may sabotage you from real break throughs again and again!
Sit down and take a genuine and unabashed inventory…… what have you got running the show in there? What is running amok? How does it feel to get a glimpse of the fears lurking in the darkness of your inner consciousness? Uncomfortable? Off-putting? Don’t ignore them…. make friendly with those fears! Gently encourage them out of the darkness and into a more enlightened view and gently examine them from many angles. What’s there now? Have they lost some of their solidity? Do they seem less reasonable or less likely?
And after the excavation and dissection….. SHAKE THINGS UP A BIT!!! I mean, why not? Have a ball…. throw a party and celebrate that you know what you have been fearing and it is no way as frightening as you had allowed yourself to feel! Claim your renewed freedom and gently and lovingly retrain yourself to allow that fear to exist without feeding its silent, sucking momentum. You know the truth and the truth is, it really will ALL be OK.
Whenever a new belief fed by a latent fear rises to your attention from your new openness,… welcome it compassionately. Shake it’s hand in a warm greeting and be a good, yet temporary host. Get to know it for a while and then see it clearly from all sides. Watch it shrink in its stature through its revealing of itself, just like a formidable foe that has come into need of you and somehow becomes less threatening in its weakness. Beliefs and fears are exactly the same. They need YOU to be fed. They require your focus on them to even be real. Gently strip back their power through your familiarity with them.
Celebrate the moment you are in right now….. and take time every day to see and feel how many aspects of your life are just RIGHT!